|Natasha| |18| |INFJ|
|Mainly U-KISS| |Hoonminion| |Occasional A:TLA, LoK, Pokemon, and bunnies|
|Traditional Artist|

A mind that never stops wandering
Breaths that escape without a sound
Eyes that stare aimlessly toward the sky
One who is always deep in thought
Forever reminiscing...
Forever pondering...
Forever searching...
evol second evolution era.

(Source: brokenraadio)

tags: evol + I miss them q_q +

silver-titanium:

To have Korra in a wheel chair and it not be depressing

(Source: nabbanaba)

tags: lok + hehe +

makos-lightningrod:

one of the most underrated and bamfest moments between two fabulous characters.

tags: atla +
"Don’t take a nude pic if you’re a famous woman and don’t want it leaked."

mysharona1987:

"Don’t wear a hoodie if you don’t want to be mistaken for a criminal and shot."

"Don’t get drunk at a party if you don’t want to be sexually assaulted."

"Don’t argue with a cop if you don’t want to get killed."

"Don’t walk home by yourself if you don’t want to get raped."

Victim blaming 101: Everyone should live in fear from ever doing anything.

kurukiss replied to your post “kurukiss answered to your post “Something has been bothering me when…”

yeah, & i think a lot of fans fail to realize idols have a team of professionals behind them to give these idols the illusion of perfection. personally i think of it like, anyone would seem perfect if they had a team of coaches, stylists, etc.

Exactly. Like, regular people occasionally get their hair/makeup done for special events, but for idols, this is part of their lives. They have access to professional makeup artists, stylists, choreographers, vocal coaches, etc., who help them look their best when they perform. If the average fan had access to those things, then yeah, they could reach that level of “perfection”, as well.

They should also consider the fact that, given the popularity of K-pop, becoming an idol is one of the quickest ways to gain an audience (i.e: underground rappers or vocal coaches worked behind-the-scenes become idols). They may not like all aspects of idol life, but in order to reach out to more people, they do what they have to do.

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peppermintglow:

It’s absolutely awful, and I think it affects Kpop lovers more than others. It’s easier to distance onself from for instance, Megan Fox or Johnny Depp - because they’re just human and we can visibly see that in for instance interviews. But Kpop artists have been trained to be immaculate ever-present with shows et cetera, so they’re flawless, and they’re everywhere, making it hard to rememberwe only ever see 6% tops of their real lives (nobody smiles as much as Kevin Woo I don’t care who says what).

I guess in current society (at least, where I live) admitting you have any kind of flaw is heavily frowned upon (it makes you “weak” - I live in a “kill or be killed” kind of society unfortunately) and I think in many cultures acknowledging flaws is considered “weak” or “selfhatred” when in reality recognizing and working to change flaws is extremely healthy.

I think most Kpop fans end up in a good place, really. Good influences are in abundance, directly or indirectly, more so than bad influences ever could be (we’ll ignore sassaengs for now).

No fan really knows what their idol’s life is like; they see the more entertaining aspects through MVs, music shows, variety shows, etc. (there are moments where they talk about deeper issues, but they’re not as common). It’s important that fans be informed of these issues and not see their biases as gods or bash anyone who disrespects their “precious oppar” (using male idols as an example in this case). There are many dark facets to K-pop, but many fans try to pretend they don’t exist.

I grew up in a similar society and two different cultures, and it’s tough, brutal even. There come a point where you just have to say “fuck them” and do what you need to care for yourself.

It’s great to see how idols influence their fans in a positive way, and I hope to see more of that.

(Source: the-hoonthusiast)

kurukiss answered to your post “Something has been bothering me when it comes to fans and biases. …”

they have low self esteem in the first place. probably do that whether or not theyre comparing to their bias or someone else

Yeah I know what you mean, though when it comes to idols, they have to look pretty/handsome enough to appeal to fans. It’s just how it is (using looks as an example). It can be harmful this way because fans compare themselves to people whose jobs require them to look a certain way.

Hopefully, they’ll be able to reach the point where they don’t have to compare themselves to others (most people are minding their own business anyway). It feels so much better.

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peppermintglow:

the-hoonthusiast:

peppermintglow answered to your post “Something has been bothering me when it comes to fans and biases. …”

Because they can only see how great their bias is, and compare their bias to themselves and think “they’re so great I’ll never be like that”

That’s one of the issues I want to talk about. For instance, fans may say things like “I’m so ugly compared to them” or “why am I so untalented I’m such a failure” and I just want to grab them by the shoulders and yell “this is so unhealthy don’t do this to yourself” in their face,  If you compare every aspect of yourself to your bias, then yeah, you’re going to be disappointed.  

Biases shouldn’t be hurting you; rather, they should be helping you reach whatever goal you have. They’re living their own dreams, so you shouldn’t be neglecting your own. Don’t see them as barriers hindering your progress, but view them as that strength you need to break through them.

That’s very true. It’s a completely destructive way of thinking. But very often fans who are like this have become that way due to external issues (e.g. I have so many Daddy issues they’re spilling out of every bodily orifice). But I think very often even though it’s not immediately noticeable on the outside because of those I’m-so-ugly (etc) comments, in reality biases are changing fans for the better, even if they seem to crank down the self-esteem one or two notches. 

The problem is that once a human being has been cracked down to a certain level, the pathway to redemption/recovery is very very long and hard with only a zillion relapses. And a beautiful Korean boy with a schedule like World War 3 can only do so much. It takes a certain amount of courage to even let your bias comfort and inspire you, because it’s like admitting that you have a problem with your self-esteem in the first place. Not everybody is born with an innate sense of “having goals and working hard to reach them” so to get to that (very healthy!) point in one’s life takes a long time.

Add in the fact that a very very large % of (foreign) Kpop fans are still in highschool/college and dealing with puberty… guidance and encouragement from older/more experienced fans is needed, but difficult to attain because making friends is hard :c

It does sadden me when these external factors affected them to the point where it becomes difficult to appreciate themselves. Idols are celebrities and therefore must have a presentable image to appeal to the public. Fans (most of whom are not celebrities) aren’t obligated to look pretty for anyone other than themselves, if that’s what makes them happy,

There’s no shame in admitting that you have flaws; we all do. There’s no shame in seeking comfort from the pain, whether it be from friends, TV shows, or in this case, celebrities. The path to self-acceptance is unpredictable and freaking crazy, and no celebrity can do it for you. You can find strength in that person or that band, but in the end, it’s up to you to forge the path you want.

It’s a difficult time, indeed. There are lot of impressionable fans in K-pop, so it’s important they they receive positive encouragement and hope that they’ll eventually see themselves in a positive light.

peppermintglow answered to your post “Something has been bothering me when it comes to fans and biases. …”

Because they can only see how great their bias is, and compare their bias to themselves and think “they’re so great I’ll never be like that”

That’s one of the issues I want to talk about. For instance, fans may say things like “I’m so ugly compared to them” or “why am I so untalented I’m such a failure” and I just want to grab them by the shoulders and yell “this is so unhealthy don’t do this to yourself” in their face,  If you compare every aspect of yourself to your bias, then yeah, you’re going to be disappointed.  

Biases shouldn’t be hurting you; rather, they should be helping you reach whatever goal you have. They’re living their own dreams, so you shouldn’t be neglecting your own. Don’t see them as barriers hindering your progress, but view them as that strength you need to break through them.

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Something has been bothering me when it comes to fans and biases.

Tell me, why do fans look down on themselves when they think about their bias?